Are you a newlywed? Did you just get engaged? Are you and your partner looking to take your relationship to the next level? Does the idea of marriage scare you? Does seeing so many failed marriages cause to reconsider making such a commitment? Have you vowed never to marry after seeing the marital relationships of your friends and family?
When you’re considering marriage, deciding on your honeymoon or figuring out where you want to live are among the first things you start to plan. Pre-marital counseling might be last on your list, if it’s there at all. While it’s not an engagement topic that’s very fun or romantic, pre-marital counseling can set your marriage up to succeed and survive long-term, in spite of the odds.
Pre-marital counseling can help you and your significant other improve your relationship by helping you develop better communication skills, learn conflict management, uncover your shared core values as well as identify differences that could create future conflict. Working with a therapist, you can discuss expectations with your partner that will help better prepare both of you for marriage.
If this sounds like you:
- You and your partner have arguments that don’t get resolved
- You feel like you’re always the one who has to compromise to keep the peace
- You’re concerned about how your partner’s financial situation will affect you as a married couple
- You’re worried about losing affection or having a diminished sex life after marriage
- You want to find healthier ways to resolve conflict
- You want to resolve religious or financial differences
- You want to define your marital roles and expectations
- You believe your relationship is perfect and marriage will be a breeze
… Then pre-marital counseling can be a great benefit to both you and your partner.
The intimate nature of marriage requires that you talk to your partner about everything, no matter how awkward or uncomfortable. Pre-marital counseling will help you learn how to be a better listener, and how to make your voice and needs heard in a productive and positive manner.
Pre-marital counseling will also show you how to handle conflict in your marriage. When you live with someone, you will have arguments ranging from the very mundane to more serious issues. How you argue will be a part of the story of how you are as a couple. Learn how to de-escalate arguments and how to fight fairly, so you don’t cause emotional pain from the things you may say that you’ll never be able to take back.
In pre-marital counseling, we will likely bring up topics that you’ve discussed before with your partner, as well as subjects you have not previously considered. This fresh perspective from an objective third party will uncover new details from your partner. This is also an excellent time for us to find unexpected areas where you disagree, and give you the tools to handle possible future conflict.
Getting married is one of life’s most treasured experiences. Pre-marital counseling is an investment that can help you and your partner turn that momentous occasion into a loving, lasting relationship. For guidance and support to strengthen your future marriage, please reach out today so we can schedule an appointment.